Posted by By Lorrie Irby Jackson – Dallas South News Contributor
Part 2 of Lorrie Irby Jackson’s Interview with author Rajen Persuad.
Lorrie Irby Jackson: Some folks say that who (Tiger is) attracted to is because his mother wasn’t black.
RAJEN PERSAUD
Rajen Persaud: But a black man is a black man, period. When you’re out there in this life, whether or not your mother is black, your journey is that of a black man. If that’s a valid argument, why didn’t Tiger marry or date Asians, since his mother is Asian?
Every woman he cheated with is a white woman. He’s repulsed by black women—he’s got the malady so bad that black women aren’t even good enough to have sex with. No men, black or white, has been impressed with his choices (of women). He just needed them in his system, he may not have even liked them.
What’s a vaccine? It has the virus itself inside. He’s got to constantly got to be vaccinated for his lust of white women. Its’ like schizophrenia and paranoia— hate and self-hate are maladies that has never been given a proper diagnosis.
LIJ: Some black men say that the rich businessmen, athletes and entertainers who end up with non-blacks simply don’t find a lot of black women where they happen to be, so they happen to meet, date, and marry more whites. Would you say that’s true?
RP: I would say to them, “In order to be in love, you first have to have that attraction. Your entire cosmetic aesthetic has been determined for you by your slave masters.” So all of the media hype about white women has been so ingrained into them and the ignorant, fat booty black ghetto chick that has been thrown at him since the invention of American media, coupled with self-hate, will determine who he’s attracted to.
So these decisions are not conscious decisions, he doesn’t know why he dislikes black women no more than he knows why he likes white women. These black athletes are partying with Jay-Z, Chris Brown….these guys are hanging out in the same clubs that P. Diddy is in, the same clubs your husband was hanging out in his younger years. There may be corporate parties for the sponsors, but there are lots of black women everywhere they go.
And this is a legitimate problem for the sisters, because with over 1 million black men behind bars, how are the women who prefer brothers expected to marry? I understand their concerns and that’s what I set out in my book to address.
LIJ: In your opinion, Mr. Persaud, how do we get the next generation of kids on the right track?
RP: First of all, we as a people have got to stop thinking about hair color, texture—-they’re little kids who will become stigmatized and grow up perpetuating this sick cycle. Be thankful that your children are healthy and can function in this world! If you don’t regularly discuss the toes, their fingers or how their ears look, don’t discuss the skin color. It ain’t about skin….it’s about the value of who they are and who they came from.
We need to give them as much information as possible about who they are, and get them to understand that there’s pride in being black. Believing stereotypes about any other race doesn’t make them any better.
They are the founding mothers and fathers of the universe and most importantly, black women should understand that it’s called Mother Africa, not Baby Mama Africa: we cannot continue to allow the children of Mother Africa to run around creating more children who are disconnected and fatherless.
It’s really part of self-worth and self-hate, seeking values in things that are expensive and don’t matter: getting diamond earrings instead of an education. Black people are destroying each other. Some of these black guys are telling these women ‘I don’t wear a condom,’ playing grown man’s games with kindergartner’s pockets and getting away with murder.
Kids should get a glimpse of the life that real black men have to live, struggling to provide for his family and working hard from day to day. We have to offer another value system besides the one of being the hip-hop hoodrat. And if you’re a parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, whoever, never let up, because even when you send your kids to college, it ain’t over.
When he or she is 50, you still might have to tighten them up. You gotta constantly reinforce what you teach. But even when he or she becomes the teacher for their own children, you are now the sage who you can teach the teacher and create more teachers. So it never ends.
You can learn more about Mr. Persuad’s book Why Black Men Love Black Women at his website.
Lorrie Irby Jackson is a freelance journalist based in Dallas and has covered entertainment professionally for several years, writing many articles for The Dallas Morning News. Her e-mail address is lorrie.irby@gmail.com.
Edited by Shawn Williams
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I TOTALLY DISAGREE…this world is NOT colorblind…teach your kids to LOVE EVERY thing about themselves including their eyes, hair, skin, etc… NOT acknowledging those things will set them up for failure.
The bottom line is so called good hair, fair skin and streamlined features will not protect you when the catagorization goes down. Love the skin you are in so it can’t be played on by someone. If Tiger Woods was comfortable in his skin, the money and fame wouldn’t matter. He would know he always has a home.
I agree totally. Race is the culprit of racism. If we never had a way of classifying ourselves, then we would not be so inclined to discriminate based on those classifications. I never learned race in taxonomy, so I choose not to be part of any “race”.
I’m kinda with Cypher on this one and someway towards the fence. However, travelling daily to and from work with a bus/train-load of badly weaved black women who would rather walk around with dreadful thatches on their head at some poor imitation of a European woman rather than sporting their own precious locks – tells me that we have such a high degree of self loathing that massive amounts of self-love and telling our children how beautiful they are etc, is required.
I have fought this battle with my own family and won…even had one comb out my child’s newly twisted locks…let’s just say she never touched her hair again after we talked. You cant go around pretending that race doesnt matter when it does…racism is as strong as ever and the only way to protect the children is to teach them to KNOW they ARE beautiful and strong and talented no matter how dark or light their skin is.
Malcolm X once claimed that the media is the most powerful entity on this planet because it controls the minds of the masses. I think a lot of our black entertainers and athletes fall victim to that, due to the different perception black and white ladies have in society as the author stated. Carter G. Woodson famously said “If you can control a man’s thinking you do not have to worry about his action.” Until we as black people start reducing our television (tell-lies-to-your-vision) time and glorify our greatness, then the negative trend will continue. We have to kill the mindset of thinking everything white is godly and everything black is devilish.
I’m from you UK, and every other black guy here goes for white women. It’s hard to find a black guy that is interested in black women. But to be honest white women can have them, their stupid and poor and usually uneducated. I think as black people we can focus on the negative to much. All women of all colors want to look beautiful. Some people are good looking and others are not. It’s just the way it is. When White women use fake tan or blow up their lips we don’t get this debate. I think the best features on black women are our skin, it looks nice in with all clothes and it ages well. However we scar badly. Also ourr lips, bum and bone structure. White women have the hair, the straight nose and white men that have money. The first thing about being a human is excepting that we will not all have perfection in every area and making the most of what you have, so if its in a bad weave as someone said so be it. Get over it, there are more important things black people need to worry about than looks or Tiger Woods. Like how to get to Obama’s status with a black woman by your side!! I am a well educated black woman with my own money, I’m looking for an
African American in London with the same. Please send him my way…
I can’t argue with the young brotha about why Tiger only chose White women,except for the part about him being repulsed by Black women. There might even be Black women out there that we don’t know about because the Black woman chose to be quiet. But tiger’s actions could be because he respected the Asians and black women more or because White women are more likely to throw themselves at him. I could be wrong but I really don’t see Tiger as the type to chase after these White women except for his wife. Having been in these kinds of situations myself, the racist notion that it’s Black men lusting and chasing after White women is a racist lie which has been with us ever since the race issue was brought up during slavery. In Psychology it’s called displacement where you put your urges and feelings on someone else. Old massa chasing slave women made it look like it was the slave women chasing him, that the male slaves lusted after White women. And so they actually had laws to make sure Black men didn’t bother White women. But Ol massa himself was never punished for his indiscretions and we see his results today. Look at Thomas Jefferson and Sally Hemings. He ended up being President of the United States.
I agree when Rajen says that, “So all of the media hype about white women has been so ingrained into them…” But the media hype is about White people in general, which is why you have many Asian women using skin lightener. Europeans running around discovering the world, put their brand on this planet. And I disagree when he says, “he (the Black man) doesn’t know why he dislikes black women.” Who says these Black men dislike Black women. I agree that there are those who, by there actions, seem to hate Black women. If Tiger has been partying with the likes of Jay-Z and Chris Brown, wouldn’t someone have said that they could see he doesn’t like Black women? I think the point is that Black women, as I’ve heard said many times in the past, are more conservative than White women although the stereotype is the opposite. They are less likely to throw themselves at these Black athletes than White women are. I also think that thanks to the racist stereotype of the size of the Black man’s organs, it makes some White women even more likely to throw themselves at Black men.
Rajen says to teach our kids that “It aint about skin,” which contradicts the point of Black men being with White women. It is about the skin and the sex of the person with that skin. The first interracial (Black with White) kissing scene included Captain Kirk on Star Trek. But we’ve never had problems with White men kissing and having sex with women of other races. That’s the way we’ve been conditioned from the movies to the lynchings in the South. Rajan makes many good points about what we must do to end this self hate, because we do have self hate. We’ve been placed in a category, and the racism isn’t going anywhere soon. I wish the racism would go away, I wish there wasn’t such a shortage of Black men for Black women, I wish so many Black men were not in prison. But the one thing I don’t see, is trying to say that Black men are with White women because of self hate. That may be the case with some Black men but not all. And I am bothered by the fact that it is taken for granted that Tiger slept with all these White women. I’m sure there are some fakes in the bunch. It always happens so why should Tiger be the exception? The media has exploded a phenomenon, Black men with White women, something that appears to have been but has never really been truly accepted in this racist society. Tiger, Kobe, and OJ are clear examples of the media acting on the subconscious and showing why races shouldn’t mix (in terms of men of other races with White women.) I feel Rajen is doing the job for the likes of the late young George Wallace and Strom Thurmond by rehashing old stereotypes of big/thick-lipped Black men lusting after their women.
Black people love white women because they don’t know any better. He has no identity of thyself. He has been brainwashed. Tiger is another victim. The day we expand our minds and see what is really going on out there, will be the day we appreciate our kind again. Until then, the cycle will continue to happen.