By: Jeff Bolton – KLIF 570’s host of The Jeff Bolton Show
Young black women in America – many of whom have been grossly labeled in the vile underbelly of hip hop culture with street monikers — bitches, ho’s and baby mamas — are displaying a gutsy propensity in 2010 to succeed in life on their own terms, and this has the chattering classes truly abuzz because these women are succeeding without the benefit of marriage to stable, faithful, loving black men.
If you’ve been listening to the pop culture media machine lately, much ado has been made about the dearth of intelligent, faithful, successful black males for the growing pool of single, unmarried, successful black women. In the same discussion, much has been made of the startling statistics confirming that single, unmarried, successful black women are earning advanced college degrees at a rate far greater than young black males.
These issues are being reported with no small amount of energy given to the efforts of these remarkable women. Here’s the answer to the issue and we’ll put the subject to rest once and for all: admire these women and leave them alone. There’s nothing wrong with them. They shouldn’t be forced into a box made by society’s expectations for them. Why is the sad, tired story of the failure of black men in society placed ahead of that of the success of black women in this pop culture reporting?
For society to become concerned with the plight of black women now that black women are succeeding on their own terms would be comical if it weren’t so sad. Many of the black women succeeding today have toiled in obscurity for years at the bottom of the societal barrel, often in broken homes and with life circumstances that would melt most people. The fact that our society is saying black women need to find a good black man to settle down with is an insult.
To make this situation even worse, in a society that honors men over women, the first point registered by opinion makers when discussing the plight of black women is the story that young black men are statistically an abject failure in virtually every area of measurement in our culture. And so it goes, this makes black men unavailable to the legions of young black women graduating with advanced degrees. These women deserve to have their accomplishments and success celebrated first. The fact that they are succeeding should stand on its own. Admire these remarkable young black women succeeding on their terms against great odds, and let society leave it’s box for their lives in the gutter where it belongs.
JEFF BOLTON IS THE HOST OF THE TALK RADIO PROGRAM “JEFF BOLTON MORNINGS”, HEARD WEEKDAYS FROM 6AM TO 9AM ON THE LEGENDARY 570 AM-KLIF. HE IS AN EQUAL OPPORTUNITY OFFENDER. HIS SHOW WEBSITE IS AT WWW.KLIF.COM AND HIS EMAIL IS JEFF.MORNINGS@CUMULUS.COM